Saturday, November 11, 2017

Coming together

I grew up in a family of strongly opinionated and strong-willed people – me included. There were often conflicting points of view... and that used to bother and frustrate us all. I'm certainly not the person anyone (including me) thought I would turn out to be.

In years gone by, I spent many upsetting conversations trying to convince my family to believe as I did, to enjoy the healing modalities I did, and to accept my points of view. I spent many more frustrating trying to be accepted for my beliefs without being able to prove them. My dad is a physicist. My mom has done accounting and office work. My brother is of a religious persuasion and was concerned about my soul. In my younger days, we had some mighty arguments. In retrospect I know we all just wanted to be accepted and understood.

Over the years the angels have helped me accept myself so thoroughly that I was able to give up my need for validation, approval, and acceptance. As a result have no need to push my beliefs on anyone. I've also realized I have no need to please anyone by trying to be anything other than who I am. We all get along beautifully now. We all take a much greater interest in one another.

My dad, a brilliant physicist and college professor, now listens to my stories of life working with those on the other side. When I recently went home for a visit, he gave me a tour the research lab where he and his students are studying cold fusion. My mom and I now talk about recipes, my nieces, jokes, and angels. My brother, who once feared for my soul, is a wonderful dad who shares his heart and home with us. I feel as if we've graduated. In fact, I just returned a few weeks ago from one of the most loving and beautiful visits in my adult life – truly a victory celebration of unity in the diversity!

Here are a few pointers to find / feel more unity this week:

1. Seek to understand
Rather than judging another perspective, seek to understand. Ask, "Why do you feel that way? I'm interested." Don't jump to conclusions or make assumptions. When we grant others understanding, they frequently return the favor. If they don't at least you'll understand them more deeply.

2. Give acknowledgment when you don't have agreement

If you don't agree with someone at least acknowledge their perspective. "Oh, I see what you mean." The angels beg us not to try to change others but rather allow ourselves and them the courtesy of simply being acknowledged.

I talk to people everywhere. Sometimes someone will go on and on about a belief that I simply don't share. I just say, "Oh I see what you mean," and that is enough.

3. Enjoy the differences

Enjoy cultural diversity. Savor the flavor in life! If you find someone's perspective absurd to you, laugh about it. What is absurd to you serves a purpose for someone else.

I can't wait for the day when we all return to that innocent state of being where we are naturally and simply curious about the differences. Variety is truly the spice of life!

Saturday, November 04, 2017

Self love is innocent

Like many of us, I grew up witnessing a culture of self-critical women. My mom learned it from her mom, and I learned it from her. I grew up feeling like I had to be perfect, and it wasn't until I started working with angels that I realized we all, already are – not according to some superficial human standard, but rather in the eyes of God and the angels.

I used to be a "sorry machine" – apologizing for everything in advance to avoid criticism. 
I used to put myself down very easily. It took years to break those habit patterns. The angels once made me go to the mirror every time I criticized myself, and apologize sincerely!

Finally being around children, animals, and other innocents taught me how to easily return to a natural state of being.


I used to go sit by an outdoor fountain in the summer at one of the local outdoor malls just to work and listen to the screams of delight from the little ones playing gleefully in the water. Each one, clearly, was in tune with their own beautiful nature.

Some gingerly patted the water. Others shrieked and splashed all over. Some sat on the fountains while others ran through so quickly they barely got wet. Some organized little groups while others preferred to play alone. No matter what their personality, these kids were quite comfortable being themselves. They sorted themselves out easily into groups of like mind. Very little adult intervention was required. In a natural state of joy, these souls knew exactly where and with whom they belonged.

I never once saw any of these children criticizing themselves. They showed off. The stuck out their big bellies and bragged. The ones wearing casts sat at the edges and proudly told everyone who walked by what they'd broken. If someone was unhappy they pouted or shouted, and then it was done – no shame, no blame. If they hurt another kid's feelings, you'd see them stop, think about it, and then go back to make a peace offering.

Kids come to earth already perfect, knowing how to love themselves. I adore watching their very pure interactions. I believe this is the reason that we must "be as a child to enter the kingdom.

When I forget how to love myself, I simply remember the innocent child within and the perfection that lies beneath the surface of all human interactions, mine included!

Here are a few ways you can be kind and loving to yourself this week:

1. Every time you criticize yourself counteract it by giving yourself three genuine compliments.
Every habit takes repetition to break. If you are in the habit of criticizing yourself, catch yourself in the act and give yourself 3 compliments. I still do this and inevitably I feel better, change my vibration and often end up laughing at my own humanity.

2. When you are hard on yourself stop. Treat yourself the way you'd treat a child.

When I get upset, rather than criticizing myself, I talk to the innocent child within, "That's OK honey! They were hurtful! You have a right to be mad." Within seconds the anger dissipates. When I become fearful I tell myself, "It's OK, we have angels. Everything is going to be alright." When I become sad, I grab a blanket and surround myself with love and warmth. Treat yourself with the same kindness, acceptance, and love you'd give a child. That innocent child still lives within you.

3. Give yourself treats

Every now and then, or better yet often, stop and do something kind for yourself. Treat yourself to a massage, time to read a chapter in a book, or time to daydream. Go get, or cook, a nice dinner and eat by candlelight. Play beautiful music on your commute. Buy yourself flowers. Do anything healthy and uplifting that you'd normally reserve for "special occasions" or for others. Gift yourself with your own love.

Let's all work to end the cycles of self-abuse and instead embrace a kinder, happier, more self-loving reality.