Saturday, August 26, 2017

Guilt free

I did a reading a few weeks ago for a dear client who is leaving this earth very soon. She wanted to be prepared. As we discussed the dying process and the journey into heaven, the angels interrupted with a tenderness and love that almost brought me to my knees...

"You have not failed," they told her. They acknowledged how hard her life had been, how many betrayals she had experienced, the abuse, the unkindness, etc. They acknowledged her tender caring heart and how hard it had been for her to be human. 

They reminded her gently that her desire before coming to earth was to learn to love herself in spite of all odds
 and she had indeed learned to accept her own feelings. The emotional pain that had festered over the years had turned into a cancer. Her body was dying, but they reminded her, "Your spirit is bright." "You have not failed." I was overtaken with the magnitude of their love.

She needed the message. I realized after her session that most of us need the reminder too.  We have been born and bred in cultures that readily employ guilt as a method to control one another. I used to feel guilty because Eve ate the apple. I felt guilty every time I couldn't please someone. I felt guilty when I did something for myself, knowing others were in need. I even felt guilty at times when I chose to continue eating my dinner when I could feel someone longing for me to get up and check emails. It was insane.

Years ago, when the angels challenged me to see how guilt had infiltrated my consciousness and polluted my experience of life, I was shocked to see how deeply its unkind tentacles reached into my reality.

I started to systematically eliminate the "guilt habit" from my consciousness. Magically people started to treat me more kindly. Abundance flowed with greater ease. I felt free and joyous. Guilt is a poison to the soul. The good news is that its damage is never permanent and we can, through our own dedication, cure it.

"You have never failed."

I pray that the words of the angels echo in the heart of this dear client of mine and echo in the depths of all human hearts.
 Hearing and feeling the love behind those words changed me, drove me deeper into self love, and made me even stronger in my ability to be authentic.

You cannot fail. Just be yourself. You are perfect exactly the way you are... even as we all expand into greater awareness.

Here are a few pointers to help you live guilt-free and remember that you have never failed:


1. Imagine everything you say to yourself, you are saying to a child
My two year old niece recently hoisted herself on the kitchen counter and shared a tub of butter with the dog! She didn't feel guilty at all and she didn't get sick!

You were born pure and perfect. This innocent child still lives within you. Find a picture of yourself when you were young. Look at it every day. Send the child so much love.

Imagine this child stands next to you and everything you say to yourself this week, you also say to this innocent child. 

Guard the words aimed at yourself and this child. Make them loving and kind.

2. Reframe your guilt trips...

Throughout the week make a list of everything that makes you feel guilty. It might be, "I feel guilty about resting. I feel guilty because I left work early. I feel guilty because I ate an extra cookie." Include anything and everything that trips your guilt trigger.

Near the end of the week take each one and reframe it. Start out with "I am brilliant..." "I am brilliant because I rested. I am brilliant because I listened to my guidance and left work early and beat traffic home. I am brilliant to grant myself a little extra sweetness and create incentive to exercise a little bit more." 

See the positive side of your guilt-trip triggers.


3. Own your sucesses

Pick a day. Right before bed, list all the loving things you did, said, or thought that day, about yourself, the world, and others. They can be large or small.

"I helped a friend. I admitted how much I've grown. I appreciated my lawn. I savored my food. I didn't lose my temper with that drive in traffic. I loved myself enough to get upset at that driver because I want more kindness. I kissed my dog. I "liked" a Facebook post..." List all things great and small. 

The mind tries to negate our "small" successes, but as the angels like to say, "Love is love. Any love is the only love."

I wish you a guilt-free week and a guilt-free life filled with amazing grace :) 

Saturday, August 19, 2017

Dealing with anger

In what seems like another lifetime, but was really only decades ago I was an angry young woman. On the outside I was sappy happy, sugar coated, syrupy sweet. On the inside, buried so deeply I didn't even know it, I had a simmering rage. It popped out occasionally.

I felt it when someone attacked me with their words. I felt it when I saw someone being unkind to another, and when I witnessed the world's violence on TV. I felt it so strongly once I hurled a pair of scissors like a javelin,straight into the wall. I didn't aim it at others. Instead I let it fly in private or aimed it at myself.
Inwardly, I blamed others for my anger, but the angels taught me otherwise. "Anger," they say, "is a force that causes the seed to burst open and reach for the light." It is meant to be a catalyst for our own growth and change, not a tool for aiming at and hurting others or ourselves.

So when you feel angry, instead of changing another, it is time to grow.

When I got angry at dangerous drivers in traffic, the angels tasked me to have more faith in God and to know I wasn't going to die before my time!

When I got angry at people who attacked me with unkind words, the angels taught me to see them as hurting children and to pray for them.

When I got angry at the violence in the news, the angels asked me not to contribute to the vibration of hatred with my own, but rather to pray, send energy and light, and contribute to the vibrations of peace and love by being peaceful and loving in my own life.

When I got angry at the jealous person who sent me spiritual attacks the past few years, the angels helped me get over my fears and learn to love "the other as self" so deeply that nothing could touch me.

As I took responsibility for my own energy, my own thoughts and my own feelings, I stopped being angry. As I embraced a greater faith, I stopped feeling as if the words and actions of others could damage me. Instead of anger, I felt compassion. Instead of contributing to the energy I disliked, I became part of the vibrational solution.

Here are a few tips to help avoid becoming upset or fearful when you witness anger or violence in the world:

1. Use anger as a catalyst for growth and positive change
When you feel anger or fear, ask yourself, "What do I need to change? How do I have to act, think, or feel differently in order to feel good again?"

This is a hard question to ask because it removes us from our external focus and points us inward. However, it helps us stop giving others our power. It gives us back out God-given right to feel better. The answers may not come right away... but if you keep asking, a light will be revealed in the darkness.

There are many ways to shift your vibration into greater love. Get creative. Above all know that you have that power.


2. Practice Ho'oponopono 

Ho'oponopono is an ancient Hawaiian practice popularized in the modern world by Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. He helped cure criminal patients through the knowledge that we are all One. He worked on healing himself and they magically healed as well. The process is simple. Imagine you can say these things to the soul of the person who has upset you.
  • I'm Sorry
  • Forgive Me
  • Thank You
  • I Love You
Here is my interpretation: 

"I'm sorry" because I have contributed to the vibrations that you aimed at me, either in this life or another. At some point in my life I have been angry or unkind. At some point in my life I have been afraid. I have added to these energies at some point in my existence. "Forgive me."

"Thank you" for showing me areas in which I can heal and love more deeply. "I love you," because in our depths we are One.


3. Turn the other cheek

There is a mistaken notion that when Jesus said, "Turn the other cheek," He meant so we could get slapped on the other side! Nothing could be further from truth! He told me he meant that we should "look away" from the darkness, and look towards the light and truth in the world! 

Try it. Give yourself permission to focus on what is good, beautiful, and true, rather than what is dark and painful.  

I think this topic is incredibly important given the recent terrorist attacks and the ensuing pain and anger around them. Together, we have a powerful collective light. 

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Experiencing Oneness

At first, realizing we are characters within the Divine mind can be horribly offensive to the ego. It is human nature to want to feel special, important, "better than," more capable, more correct, and so on. The notion that we are all One love in different forms sometimes makes an individual feel less "real" or less "important." In reality we are all real. We are all important.

As you experience the truth of our Unity – that we exist within God and God is within us – something beautiful begins to happen.
You begin to know that you are never alone or without guidance. You never have to solve your challenges by yourself. You are loved more than you can possibly imagine. Suddenly everyone is family. Suddenly, as the ego surrenders to the greater Truth of its unity with the Divine, you realize everyone else is you. You feel safer, more loved, more capable of creating change in your life.

The angels like to say, "We are as waves upon the ocean, seemingly separate only at the surface, but connected but a depth of love beyond comprehension. You can only imagine we are separate."
I have had many experiences of this Oneness. In "Ann & the Angels, Series 7" I was teaching people to slip into these blissful realities while simultaneously knowing themselves as a unique and precious individual. I kept slipping into this Presence in the studio. It felt delicious beyond words. It was sometimes hard to speak in front of the camera and the studio was filled with light.

The real magic, however, happened in the airport on the way home. I felt only the Presence of the Divine looking through my eyes at itself in the thousands of people traveling, greeting, rushing, smiling, hugging, scowling, stressing... no exception. I felt the Presence of God looking through my eyes at itself in everyone else. Whether someone smiled or scowled, I felt only the euphoric bliss of unconditional love. My Ann-self became an observer, swimming in a magical world of connection.

Last weekend I was at the International Association for Near Death Studies conference, speaking as part of a panel. I had the privilege of hearing famous authors, doctors and scientists studying human consciousness, and nursers pioneering whole new nursing philosophies based on caring.

I got to meet scores of people who had died, gone into the light and come back to tell. In so many cases, they spoke of the feelings of being one with, or deeply connected with all of life in their experience beyond death. Often the feelings of love and connection were so strong they didn't want to return to the limited experience of being in a human body. Nonetheless, they knew they must because their message about our unity and the constant presence of Love felt so important to share.

Here are a few ideas to help you shift into the blissful experience of Oneness, and to experience the love that is around us and in us at all times...

1. Either go to a beautiful place in nature or find a beautiful photo of nature on the Internet. Allow yourself to become "lost" in it
As you witness the beauty and majesty of nature – a sunset, a sunrise, the vastness of the ever-undulating ocean, or the sweet repose of a forest, you begin to return to your natural state of being. You begin to feel a part of something larger – an organism within an ecosystem.

You begin to feel the Presence of something very loving that created such beauty. You begin, as you witness the cyclical nature of nature, to feel eternity. 

Just "be" with this beautiful scene. Just observe loosely, in a relaxed way. Let yourself "melt" into it for a few minutes. See how you feel.


2. Look into the eyes of the innocent - either a child, a dog, a precious soul - either in the physical or in a photo... or even your own in the mirror.

The eyes are the windows to the soul. As you quiet your mind and look either into your own eyes, or the eyes of another, something in you recognizes a presence that goes far beyond body, brain, or mind. The longer you are able to look in the eyes of another with a quiet mind, the more deeply you go into the mystery.

What looks through your eyes is looking back at you... just in a different form. 

3.Listen to some inspiring music or chant a mantra and let yourself melt into it.

In ancient cultures, the shaman healers listened to a drumbeat and melted into it to enter other dimensions. In Hindu traditions there are mantras chanted over and over that induce a similar effect. In Christian traditions the monks chanted for hours to lose themselves in God.

I listen to Robin Miller's "Dreams of Heaven" and float into these spaces.

Choose some music that inspires you and see if you can just allow your mind to drift with it, turning yourself into pure light, energy, or whatever it begins to present to you. Melt into the experience. It will transport you beyond the ordinary. 

I know these are deep topics, and it is all to easy to want "practical" solutions to life's challenges. I am an ex-electrical engineer who grew up within a scientific paradigm, and I love practical solutions!  

The father I delve into the mystery however, the more I understand that the most practical thing we can do, is reconnect with love – one moment at a time. As we attune ourselves with love, we hear our guidance and feel good about ourselves. Challenges are elegantly solved. Opportunities present themselves and what we call "miracles" become a natural way of life.

I love you all so much. Thank you for being on this journey with me.
Ann 

Saturday, August 05, 2017

Expand into light

Have you ever done something the "hard way" for years and then realized, at long last, there was a much easier way?

... like banging jar lids on the counter and struggling with them until I discovered these little rubber pads that stick and help you unscrew the lid!

.... or typing cryptic commands in an old DOS computer (for those of you old enough to remember!) until I discovered the absolute joy of an "intuitive user interface" on my first Macintosh!
... struggling to peel ginger with a vegetable peeler until mom told me I could scrape the skin off with the edge of a spoon.

... or sitting at my desk for years with poor posture until I realized all I had to do was call in my two favorite carpenters in heaven (Jesus and grandpa) to help me find a solution!

There are so many cases in life where we just do what we do, the way we know how to do it... until we get fed up with doing things the hard way... or someone shows us a much easier way to go.

It was like that with managing difficult energies for me. I feared negative energies and tried to protect myself from them. I got upset at negative people, or at myself for not being able to "fix" them. I battled demons who came in with some clients. I ranted about injustices. 

The angels patiently indulged my way of handling dense energy until I finally was willing to surrender to an easier method – "Just allow the light that you are to expand within you, Ann. That will fix everything."

As always, they were right. Allowing the light to expand withing is quick, easy, fun, and feels good. I now use this technique all the time. It protects me from negativity. It strengthens me. It gives me energy when I feel depleted. Best of all, it just plain feels amazing! The more you do it, the more you feel it.

Here are a few ways you can use the simple exercise of expanding the light within to improve your life in every day life situations:

1. Protection against negative people
When you're around someone whining, complaining, or angry, it is easy to get drained if you shift your energy into pity, or begin to fear or resist them.

Instead imagine a spark of light in the center of your chest, exapnding, filling you with light. Imagine the light spills past the boundaries of your body and encompasses them too. You are sharing Divine love. You are giving them a "hug from God."

They will almost always settle down or leave! In any case, you will be rooted in Divine love rather than in their negativity. You won't get drained because the light is coming from the Infinite, not from your personality's reservoir.

2. Clear a room

When your home lacks luster, or when you're waiting in line at the post office, in a hotel room, in a crowd, or in a waiting room you might want to clear or refresh the energy around you. 

Simply imagine that spark of light in the center of your chest. Imagine you are allowing it to expand. It fills you, spills past the boundaries of your body and begins to fill the room, seeping into the furniture, the walls, the floor, the ceiling, etc... You can even imagine this light filling your house. Again, this light is coming through you not from your personal reservoir. You will feel uplifted.

3.Heal yourself or others

Imagine that spark of light in the center of your chest. Imagine you are allowing it to expand. It fills you, waking up all the healthy cells, bringing light into the darker areas of the aura, and gently cleansing you with energy. You are bringing radiant health into each cell. You are focusing on your healed, whole, and healthy self. 

To help another, imagine that light withing them, expanding, filling and waking up all healthy cells, bringing light into dark areas of their aura. You are focusing on their healed, whole, and healthy self. 

Play with this exercise of allowing the light to expand this week. Get creative. It really works. I love hearing how you use it too!