Saturday, July 15, 2017

Finding Purpose

I did something very unusual a few weeks ago just prior to the Fourth of July holiday. I rested for four days straight. I ate, slept, and read and did absolutely nothing else!

In the past I would have been frustrated that I didn't feel like working, hiking, crafting, or a million other things. For the first time in my life, however, I had no resistance whatsoever to listening to my body. It was delicious, rejuvenating, and highly purposeful time. It reset my mind, re-fueled my body, and helped me re-commit to a whole new level of self-care.

If you grew up like me, you know that our culture celebrates the purpose in our busy-ness, our activities, and our achievements. Rest on the other hand, is often considered a luxury, a 'necessary evil,' a waste of time, or worse... laziness!  It is so easy to believe we have purpose when we're achieving something, creating something, or helping someone. It is a lot harder to embrace being 'purposeful' when we're not. 

Nonetheless everything we do has purpose if done with love. Your down time is just as purposeful as your "busy" time. Your rest is just as important as your exercise. Your time to daydream is just as important as your time to think. Whatever we do, as long as we do it with love and authenticity has purpose.

I ended up reading a great book about Louisa May Alcott ("Invincible Louisa" by Cornelia Meigs.") I'm not even sure how it ended up on my kindle app but it was there, and so I dove into it. I had no idea the famous author of "Little Women" grew up around such amazing thinkers as Emerson and Thoreau, that she was a nurse in the civil war, traveled the world as a caretaker, and never gave up on her dream of supporting her family, nor allowed ill health to overtake her zest for living. My "down time," spent reading about her "up time" greatly inspired me.

So this week, if you feel inspired to act with love, then by all means do so, but perhaps you, like me, could use a little rest. If so, just know that your down time has purpose. God would not have invented the fall and winter if the trees were meant to bloom all year. Even they rest, knowing that in their slumber they are gathering energy for their next cycle of activity.

Here are a few pointers to help you find purpose...

1. Pick something you consider purposeless, and list at least ten reasons why it has a loving value. 
The angels challenged me to do this years ago when I was whining about "wasting time" on housecleaning. They asked me to "love my house," give thanks for my house, give thanks for being able to share my house, for the furniture I loved, much of it with its own story. They showed me how "loving my house" was a way to share my love with both myself and everyone who visited, to save time in the future (because I could find things in an organized home) and to master the art of being present. Soon I was whistling while I worked!

Resting has purpose... it helps your brain loosen up its grip on preconceived notions and see things in a new light. Your body self-heals. You get new ideas, new guidance, and fresh perspectives. You are more apt to take better care of yourself when you rest because you let go of your addiction to adrenaline. Rest has great meaning.

Try it... Pick something you consider purposeless, and list at least ten reasons why it has loving value. 

2. Before bedtime, ask yourself, "How would the world be different if I hadn't been here today?"

Perhaps you let someone move in front of you in traffic and that kind act made their day. Without you they might have had an accident. Maybe you called a friend in need. Without you they might have spiraled into a tough mindset. Perhaps you slept all day. Without you there would be one less ripple of peace in the cosmic pond... everything has value.

3. If you really want a "greater purpose" as we humans say, write down three of your biggest complaints in life. Explore how you can you contribute to the solution.

Seeing love, being love, and expressing love are purpose enough. The angels maintain your very act of breathing and being is a contribution. However, being human, many people want to find something to do that feels like a contribution to humanity. That is wonderful, but what if you don't know what to do?

Years ago the angels said something simple - "Your biggest complaints are clues to your greatest passion."

If you hate the fact that people are starving, find ways to feed someone. If you hate animal abuse, volunteer at a shelter or visit and share love with one of its residents. If you can't stand seeing people dis-empowered, teach empowerment. You get the idea. Your complaints do indeed show you your passions. 


This week try to start looking at everything you do and everything you are as having purpose, meaning, and value. In that space, life takes on a new vibrancy, and starts to feel more joyful. Never, the angel say is anything we do, or anything we are, wasted in the greater scheme of life.

Saturday, July 08, 2017

Making love to life

Years ago I did some real damage to my foot and ended up being on crutches for five months. Even the simplest tasks were challenging, from taking care of the dogs who were on earth at the time, to cooking and cleaning house. I know many of you have been there too. I could no longer rush around as usual and so I learned to do everything I did slowly, thoughtfully, and with love.

I didn't have the capacity at the time to hire someone to clean house so I bought a portable vacuum, tied a ribbon to the handle and lugged it around on crutches. I strapped a belt around my waist and hung the rags and cleaners from it.  I put on some good slow music and began "making love to my house,"as the angels urged me. I cleaned it slowly, consciously, and with a great deal of love. I don't believe I've ever seen my house sparkle like that!

Cooking was the same. I had to stop, move the plate from the counter, to the table, put the food on it, move it back to the kitchen island, and then to the microwave! I thought of it as loving my dinner.  Even putting the dishes in the dishwasher became an act of slow, conscious, loving. 

While this may seem silly, it made the time on crutches a blessing rather than a burden. It wasn't easy but it was an extremely loving time. I sat still with love. I contemplated life with love. Surprisingly I even learned to embrace the pain with love till it wasn't that bad.

As promised, the pain passed, but the love lasted. I now do the things I must more slowly and with love. I can sit still and still love myself now. I can take almost any task and color it with the same care that I'd give someone else I loved. It has been a remarkable lesson. 

Here are a few pointers to help you make love to life this week

1. Pick a mundane task that you do often and do it with love
Comb your hair with love. Brush your teeth as if you loved the toothbrush, the toothpaste and your teeth. Pet your dog with love. Look at your family with love. Set the table with love. Eat with love. Try doing the smallest things with love and see how it makes you feel.

As the angels like to say, Love is Love no matter who or what you love!


2. Take something you don't enjoy and add more love

This takes some creativity. You might not like your drive to work in traffic. Maybe you can find good music or books on tape? You might not like doing accounting or taxes. Perhaps you can think of it as a blessing to even have a salary to account for, put on some good music, and promise yourself a reward when you're done. Maybe you don't like housecleaning or exercising. Can you put on some fun clothes, some good music, and think of how healthy you'll feel?

You get the idea... we can always find ways to add love even to those tasks we don't usually like. 

3.Try to find something lovable about someone you don't like

This one is more challenging. Years ago I was watching someone yell at a clerk. The angels challenged me to figure out something to love about this woman. I saw laugh lines and started thinking loudly, "At least you have a sense of humor!" She turned to the clerk and said, "I guess you just have to laugh." I was taken aback! 

When we find something to love about someone who isn't being loving, it is an invitation to their soul to step into a more loving reality!


Have fun this week putting a little extra love into life. It is the secret ingredient that will sweeten your days!

Saturday, July 01, 2017

Free to be

As I mentioned last week, I recently attended and spoke at the Academy for Spiritual and Consciousness Studies conference. It was like a little bit of heaven on earth! Physicists, neuroscientists, mystics, dream interpreters, filmmakers, and Near Death Experiencers all shared their perspectives on life, healing, and consciousness.

Some approached the subject with detailed scientific studies, others with healing demonstrations, and still others with heart-touching stories of their time in heaven. Everyone was so respectful, kind, and loving to one another, even when there were differences of opinions. Speakers and attendees mingled freely and attended each others' workshops. It was another "home" away from "home."

I found myself thinking, "If only we could all learn and share from one another so respectfully, this world would be amazing." Professional grown men – scientists, doctors, and former lawyers – stood up front, getting teary eyed as they talked about their love for humanity, their NDEs, and their emerging understandings of consciousness. Instead of feeling self conscious, they bared their hearts. Instead of the audience judging, they were touched. It was so profoundly beautiful. We did dream interpretation exercises, talked about simultaneous parallel realities, no space/no time, kundalini, healing, everything is one, surrender, and so much more.

Can you imagine a world where we are free to be who we are without fear of exposing our hearts and our own beliefs? A world where we can listen to one another, accept one another and simply choose to take in what feels right and what does not? A world where diversity of opinions are celebrated and we find the common ground? It would be heaven.

Here are a few pointers to help you embrace other's perspectives whether they agree or not.

1. Instead of listening to someone and automatically judging them right or wrong, good or bad, seek to understand.

It is the brain's job as a finely tuned computer to compare and contrast every bit of information we take in, with everything we've ever learned. In a way we're wired to sort things out according to what we know.

Rather than judging we can simply say to ourselves. "Hm, that's different from what I think I know. Let me listen to see if I can learn anything. That's not how I think. I wonder why they think that way." Or if you absolutely can't stand the perspective, then simply say to yourself, "Not for me."

Many of you have heard this story. I once wrote a woman who ran a hate site aimed at a celebrity I liked. I asked her why and told her I was just curious. Instead of being mad at her and judging her horrible, it felt better to inquire. She said she started it as a joke and now felt trapped by all its members. I felt compassion for her inability to stand up for what she now believed in. Clearly she, like all of us, was just growing.

2. Rather than needing to agree, acknowledge the other's perspective

You can simply say, "I see why you feel that way" or "I understand now." You don't have to agree or disagree with anyone. You just have to own your own thoughts and feelings, and allow others to have theirs. In doing so you can acknowledge another person's perspective, without having to change your own.

For example, years ago a dear one in my life, felt I should engage in Bible study. I love the Bible. I love all spiritual books. However, because I talk to angels, and have been in heaven, I didn't feel the need for further intellectual study. He argued and tried to get me to agree. At first I tried to justify and explain myself but then realized that it was no more my place to change him, than it was his to change me. Ultimately we chose to acknowledge that each had found a path to God that worked in our own lives. We are now able to respect each others' service to the world in spite of differing beliefs.

If a person can't allow you to be, then there's no need to argue. Remain silent, or as the Bible says, "Don't cast your pearls before swine." There is no need to share your heart with those who can't see its value.

3. Rather than getting upset about others' perspectives, see them as the classroom in which they are growing.

You know what works in your life. Likewise, others know what works in theirs, or, if their lives are not working, they are actually choosing beliefs and habits that give them what they need to grow.

I'll never forget a few decades ago. Someone I loved was sick. "I was nearly beside myself. "I can help you! I can do Reiki on you!" I begged them to let me "heal" them. Their answer taught me volumes, "I'm sick because I need rest. Please let me sleep." Pushing our own "helpful" ideas on another is never loving and rarely welcome. We can offer kindly once or twice, then let it go. Every soul knows what they need to grow.

Even those who addict, engage in horrible habits, and even exit the planet in unkind ways, grow from those experiences. I was talking to someone today who is very spiritual and kind soul. He remembers a past life as a soldier in a very vicious army. He has learned from the perspectives of his past life, and is now a beautiful peace-loving soul. Eventually love wins.
 


I know this is a touchy topic. It IS a human challenge not to get saddened or angered when we hear others' perspectives that we vehemently disagree with. 

Yet we can only achieve spiritual freedom when we understand that everyone is exactly where they need to be, believing what they need to believe, working whether they know it or not, to grow back to love... including us.

May freedom live in your heart this week –  the freedom to be who you are, believe as you believe, and allow others to do the same.