So many of us learned that we’re loved if we make someone feel good. We’re loved if someone makes us feel lovable. We’re loved if we behave, please people, get good grades, do what is expected of us, etc… We’re loved if we’re beautiful, financially secure, funny, and the list goes on.
We feel unloved when we’re criticized, ignored, betrayed, dumped, attacked, abandoned, ugly, poor, stupid…. you name it. The list goes on.
We learned to feel lovable when humans give us cause to feel that way, and unloved when they don’t.
The truth is we are loved. Beyond reason. Always. Without condition.
… And in ways we can barely begin to comprehend with the human mind.
It is our task to get out of love’s way, to stop telling ourselves we are unloved in any number of ways, and to embrace the truth.
I finished the chores last weekend – cooking for the week, tidying up, finances, etc and I was excited about finally creating time to work on a project. It occurred to me that a little "gaze practice" would get me in the right mindset. I set my intent for the energy to bless family, friends, and all of you, then stood in front of the mirror, looked into my own eyes and surrendered.
An exquisitely tender Presence began to move over and through me. I felt embraced by a bubble of warm, fizzy energy. It became stronger, more electrical and began to expand into a field of light that encompassed me.
I heard my guides talking amidst themselves, “Do you think she’s ready?” Long ago I stopped asking, “Ready for what?” They concluded I was ready for whatever was coming. "Surrender more deeply. The energy is going to get stronger," they told me. "Release all thoughts. Be willing to receive." I quieted my mind, released my thoughts, and opened up my entire being.
Massive rivers of love began to pour through me. I felt gripped by an expansive force field of light so all-pervasive, I could no longer see anything other than a blinding golden-white light in all directions. I couldn't even see myself in the mirror except for a tiny blur of a body in an immense sea of energy.
I expanded into the light, beyond any boundaries of a body or mind, until I experienced myself as this light. Soon, I started to experience different “windows of awareness” – as if I was seeing how the light would answer various client’s prayers with incredible love and tenderness.
I found myself in the future, within the consciousness of a man that one of my clients, who was praying for a relationship, would meet someday. I felt the light gently nudging his awareness to notice her. I felt his feeling of warmth and tenderness as he did.
I felt myself, as the light, within vermin infesting a friend’s house suddenly projecting the thought, “This isn't loving. It’s time to leave now.”
I experienced myself as cells in my own body awakening to the fact that they were being bathed with truth and healing energy.
I also felt a tiny awareness of myself as Ann, standing there in the awe and wonder of the journey. I was able to sense also the areas in my aura where I was still blocking love. Swimming in a sea of love there were still places where I was not yet allowing it to flow freely. Amazing. There was no judgment, simply understanding... and a desire to open to love even more deeply in my every day life.
As Rumi so eloquently stated, "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it."
Children don't block love's flow. They say what they mean, feel what they feel, and love without abandon or a need for acknowledgment. They go towards those who are loving and move away from those who aren't. They live naturally - according to their simple, pure, and innocent nature in each moment. So can we.
Here are a few tips to remind you that you are loved this week:
When someone is unkind or unloving and you can't seem to let it go, shift the energy by doing something loving for yourself. We have the power of choice. You can focus on the rotten half of an apple or the good half. You can focus on the unloving and the unkind, or you can exercise your power of choice to be loving to yourself.
The angels constantly remind us that any act or ackowledgement of love tunes us back into the vibration of love!
2. When you get self-critical, stop! For every self-criticism, say three kind things about yourself.
We’ve all had those days when we feel stupid, ugly, unkind, etc. Its easy to get down on ourselves. However, the angels coached me to adopt a simple but powerful habit. Every time I catch myself in self-criticism, I stop and say three good and kind things about myself. Try it. It may be hard at first, but if you develop the habit, you’ll switch out of the unloving vibe very quickly.
3. Spend an entire day… or an entire life reminding yourself that you are loved!
- When you wake up remind yourself, "The Universe loves me! Its going to be a great day!"
- Every time something doesn’t go your way, say to yourself, “I am loved. There must be something better for me.”
- Every time someone is unkind say, “It’s OK! I am loved by angels and the Creator of universes!”
- Every time you don’t feel so great about yourself say, “It’s OK! I am loved without condition, exactly as I am.”
- Every time you feel afraid, say to yourself, “I am loved, supported, cherished… All I need to do to receive is believe!”
- And when things look wonderful, "Oh Wow, I'm SO Loved! There is more evidence!"