So rather than worrying about, "what everyone else should believe," ask instead, "What do I believe? How can I structure my life around my own principles and be in integrity with my own soul? How can I listen to others without necessarily agreeing?" These are questions worth contemplating.
So many times I have been called to listen to those who have attacked me or to people with whom I vehemently disagree. Years ago one of my best friends was a guy with whom I agreed on only one thing – We are all made of one love. We disagreed on most everything else! We had fantastic discussions and came to understand different ways of thinking. Neither of us budged in our personal views or how we lived our lives, but we respected each others' souls.
Years ago a skeptic attacked a friend, and I began an angry email until the angels stopped me and had me write and ask him why he felt the need to attack without info. We had an amazing dialog and ended on a friendly note whereupon he decided I was misguided but well-intentioned and I felt the same about him.
Another time I wrote to a lady who ran a hate site for a celebrity I admired. I asked her why she was motivated to promote hate. She explained it started as a joke and took on a life of its own and now she felt trapped by her own "fans." I felt compassion for this soul that had backed herself into an uninspiring and hurtful corner of life with her dark humor. Nonetheless, we spoke to each other with respect and kindness.
1. Remember, we are not all meant to agree
Rather than arguing a point with anyone, simply ask, "May I share my perspective and thoughts on this and if you don't agree I'd like to understand yours." You will have a much better discussion than if you try to beat your point into someone or vice versa.
If someone else is trying to make you agree with them, try this. "I understand this is the way you feel..." and then repeat what they said to acknowledge you have heard and understood it. "May I share my thoughts. They are a little different but they work for me."
In this fashion you create a space for understanding. If the person insists on an argument, stop sharing. No need to be right, as the angels say. You already are right for yourself!
2. Rather than getting upset about other perspectives, give yourself permission to have your own
If you give yourself permission to have your own perspectives and sacred point of view, you do not have to get worked up over others. I can now listen to people with widely differing views from my own, either share my own or remain silent, ask questions, and still go about life according to my own God given guidance.
If you don't like another's perspective, that's fine! But if you find yourself getting riled up over it, there is still something inside of you that feels a need to agree, make others agree, or "make nice." Just own what you believe and observe everyone else like a curious specimen in the human species, or better yet, if you can "turn the other cheek" and look for more resonant examples of the human race!
For example, I do not resonate with much of what goes on in our political campaigns so I do my civic duty, but I don't watch the news. The roses are blooming. The lemons are starting to turn yellow. There's a hint of fall in the air, and I'm feeling God's love ever more strongly as of late... That is my news. That is my perspective. It may or may not be yours. Accept yourself and then allowing others to "be" as they are becomes easier.
3. Remember, God is God
Dialog – even strongly sharing your views – is good! However, we fall into fear and judgment and arguing sometimes because we fear that someone can have more power over us than the Creator. Many fear that a country's leader has power over their lives, finances, etc. In reality, the angels caution us not to "worship false idols." Live by the laws of course. Know that you'll be affected by the decisions of those "in power."
Remember, however, there is only one true power and that belongs to the Divine. If you keep yourself in a loving space, and give your problems to a higher power you'll sail through anything created by mankind unscathed.
For example, self-employment insurance costs have become obscenely high thanks to changes in the law in recent years. Rather than waste my precious energy getting all riled up over something I don't like, don't agree with, and can't change right now, I give even my bills to God. Far better to live in faith and trust and act as guided, than to allow others' choices to drag you down.
So this week, see if you can "own" your own point of view, without getting into arguments. Instead of seeking to be right, seek only to understand and to be understood. We could create a much more peaceful world in this way!