Saturday, November 26, 2016

God is still God

I am neither Republican nor Democrat. I am human. And beyond that, "I AM" – a living breathing field of love that takes shape as Ann, as you,as the oceans, the mountains, the Hilary's, and the Trumps. Each of us is not separate but rather many different forms all made of the same light. In much the same way each wave upon the ocean is both an individual wave AND the ocean made manifest, we are individual and yet we contain within us currents of all other beings that have ever lived and ever will. We have an Inner Christ, and an Inner Hitler. We have love that is so deep it hurts when blocked, and we have judgment so deep it could easily kill off another's ideology... or even our own feelings. Each of us, without exception is capable of all.

So here we are in the US after a presidential election that was so polarized and divided that many spun into fear, depression, anger, and even hatred. We've got a president elect that some hope will fix the country and some fear.

Rather than hoping for, or fearing what one man can do, the angels say it is far better to realize that we, as a collective human race, are the ones "in Power." 

We vote vibrationally with our energy field in every breath
. We vote for love or we vote for hate. We vote for fear or we vote for faith. We vote for unity in the diversity or we vote for divisiveness and separation... in every breath. In each moment, collectively, we create the next. We ripple the field with our every thought, word, and deed.

Each time we criticize ourselves or another we bring our inner "judge" or "dictator" to the surface, and broadcast the energy that empowers judgment and bullying. Each time we love ourselves or another with compassion, we bring our inner "Christ" to the surface and broadcast the energy that empowers unconditional love.  

This discussion is not about a man, not about a political party, not about a right vs. wrong, good vs. evil but rather simply about love or fear, spiritual truth or illusions of separation. It is time to realize how powerful we really are. The ones we love in public iconify all that we love in ourselves. The ones we can't stand iconify things we may not yet have owned or made peace with inside of us... if only in the smallest ways.

I am choosing not to hate the haters, not to be prejudicial against the prejudice, not to separate myself from those who would see to separate humanity and pit one against another. I am choosing to love, to pray for the union of souls, the upliftment of humanity. I am choosing to be kind to people who are difficult, and to be kind to myself with greater fervor and commitment than ever before. I am choosing not to judge others and not to judge myself, but simply to discern who and what belongs in my life.
I am choosing to love relentlessly. The world is in need. One man is simply an iconic representation of all that has been broiling beneath the surface of humanity - both the passion for change and the illusions of separation. It is time we look at these superficial separations – both externally and internally –  and decide if we are going to join the vibrations of fear and judgment, or instead stand in a more beautiful vibration of love.

Here are a few tips to help you stay in love while watching things on the news that could otherwise inspire fear, hatred, and judgment...

1. Remember God is still God
No matter who is in "office" no one and nothing has more power over your life, well being, and finances than what you choose to give them. Literally. God is still God. The universe operates by the laws of vibration. Have faith in the Divine and the Divine can pour countless blessings into your life no matter what the economy does, no matter what programs stay or go, no matter who is in "power." The Dalai Lama, when asked why he didn't hate the Chinese once said, "I gave them my country and many of my people. Why should I give them my mind?"

When you begin to fear the state of the world, finances, etc... remember, the Creator's love remains constant just as the ocean remains constant beneath the surface. Put your faith in the Infinite and you will be "in the world but not of it." Take time in stillness to reconnect with peace each day, if only for a song, or a few breaths. It matters.

2. Don't hate the haters / Don't judge the judgmental

This one can be tough! We don't like people who are mean, bigoted, etc. We don't want to be around them. We don't like to listen to them. However the angels say that the angry only "make you" angry if you have anger in you!

Remember the scene in Star Wars where Darth Vader was trying to bring Luke to the dark side? He taunted him, attacked him and then goaded him to "use your anger," telling him anger would make him powerful. This is the lure of the "dark side"... although in truth there is only light and misunderstanding.

When you are tempted to anger or judgment, remind yourself... I don't have to like the words or actions, but I can send light to the soul. I can love the light within that person no matter how buried. I can be more effective in changing them if I pray for their upliftment, send light, or ask for truth to be seen. There is no point in judging or hating, other than to make us feel powerful and right when we feel powerless. We are not powerless. We have the capacity to direct the love that created Universes. Love Relentlessly.

3. Listen to other peoples' perspectives, but hold tight to your own

This is a challenge. Listen with respect to others' perspectives even if you would not normally respect them. Ask why they feel that way. Seek to understand rather than to be understood. A funny thing happens. Suddenly people start to care about your perspectives too.

I have had many people in my life who don't really care about anything other than sharing their own opinions. Some of them I could walk away from. Others' I've worked with and couldn't. The angels taught me to think of them with curiosity... "Why do you feel that way? Why do you think that way?" This leads to far deeper and more interesting discussions than trying to convince anyone I'm "right." I am right... for me! You are right... for you! If we could honor our own perspectives but listen with respect and seek to understand our world would be a better place.

We can make this world a beautiful place by embracing only those energies we want to see. As Ghandi said, “If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.”

I love you all... may you feel the peace of truth within you.

Saturday, November 19, 2016

Givng thanks for it all

It is easy to give thanks for the things we love and the things that feel good. It is easy to give thanks for the beautiful, loving people in our lives. It is easy to give thanks for the surprises and gifts, the kindnesses we didn't expect, and the things that stand out in our thinking as special.

It is more challenging to give thanks for the things we usually take for granted – our breathing, our bodies, our clean water and good food... the bed we snuggle into each night, our Mother earth, the freedoms we enjoy...

And more challenging still, we can even give thanks for what has been painful in our lives for it causes us to grow and seek greater self love, greater truth, and greater light.

This week I give thanks for all of you. I've been writing these newsletters weekly for over 15 years now. At times it is a joy. At times it is very difficult. I've been challenged to share both the joys and the pains. You have made it safe for me to be vulnerable and share my heart, and the truth of my life. You have been the ones that inspire me right back. You have been the ones who so vulnerably share your struggles, hopes, and dreams with me so I can surrender to the help that wants to come through.

I give thanks for your love, your kindness, and the pure joy of traveling this path with so many souls striving to live more loving lives.

Here are a few tips to embody the spirit of gratitude this week... 

1. Give thanks for someone who has touched your life...

It is easy to assume people know what they do for you. Take time this week to jot a short email to someone, perhaps even from your past who did something sweet for you, or someone who affected your life. If I see someone on TV whose words touch me, I don't assume that my thanks will be insignificant compared to their celebrity. I let the gratitude flow.

2. Before you go to bed each day try to give thanks for several things you normally take for granted... 

Here is a short list of my daily gratitude ramblings... I give thanks for the beauty and perfection of the eggs I eat every morning, for the sunrise, the sun shining upon us from so far away. I give thanks for my delicious tea and milk, for my patio, for the songs of the birds, for the miracle of the Internet, for my deliciously cozy blankets and my comfy bed... I give thanks for a body that has healed from so much, the flocks of angels that support us, and for sweet little treats such as the joy of another license plate message from heaven... the list goes on!

3. Give thanks for someone who has hurt you or some challenge you have faced...

A diamond is formed under heat and pressure. Iron is forged in fire. And we too find strength and healing in our deepest, darkest challenges. When you can truly give thanks for something hard you have garnered all its gifts and you are done with the vibration.

I give thanks for the challenges of an angry powerful soul aiming their attacks at me the last few years because once and for all I have learned to love those who hate me, and their woundedness no longer has power over my soul. I give thanks for tough and unloving relationships in the past because they taught me where I didn't know how to love myself.... Now your turn... what has helped you become the amazing soul you are now?

Saturday, November 12, 2016

Handling unmet expectations

I don't know anyone, myself included, who lives without expectations of themselves and others. Yet these very expectations, however noble and well-intended, can cause great pain when they are not met. 

There was a soul in my past whom I expected to be very supportive of me, to understand my heart, to want the best for me, etc. However, this very soul ended up being an emotional child, wanting only for their needs to be met, wanting only to be heard, while not being willing to hear much of what was important to me. This soul wanted me to be around when they were in need and ignored me when they were not.

At first I was angry. I felt they "should" have cared about me more. I expected them to do so. But the fact remains, they did not. My expectations and the resulting anger hurt only me. As I learned, grew, and looked back I realized this soul simply wasn't able to be who I had once hoped and expected they would be. Their childhood woundedness prevented them from being able to care too deeply about anyone other than themselves.

Recently I had a conversation with this person once again. I prayed over it, and chose to release myself and them from all expectations. I simply listened with compassion. I choose not to dance often with them, but when I do I will just take the most loving course of action. As the angels always say, "Love just feels better!"

Here are a few tips to help you deal with unmet expectations...

1. Know what you will do if your expectations aren't met

Write down on a piece of paper... "I expect myself to..." and fill in the blanks with as many things that come to mind. Write down "I expect others to..." and fill in the blanks with as many things that come to mind.

Now, next to each expectation, write down a loving response that you could choose if the expectation isn't met. This way if you, or others, don't live up to your expectations you have already created a loving way to respond.

Years ago after an abusive ex-boyfriend unceremoniously left my life, I wrote "The Ten Commandments of Ann" – how I expected to be treated and how I'd deal with it if I was not. While this was done out of pain, if actually served me well as I went into the future. I had created a "game plan" that helped me to treat myself with far more kindness and respect, and others with far less upset.

2. If you are upset at someone ask yourself, "How can I free them and myself from the bondage of my expectations?"

If we could truly accept others as they are, we'd get momentarily angry at mistreatment, then in the very next breath, decide how to powerfully and lovingly handle it, taking into account love for self as well. We perpetuate anger if we hold onto the expectation.

For example, I met someone who was very pushy earlier this year. I lovingly told this person that I was going to listen to my inner guidance over what they thought I "should" do. They continued to insist I was wrong. I had to let go of my expectation that they would be willing to let me be me, and accept they had a burning need to be right. I stopped communicating and blocked this person's calls. Once I released us from the bondage of my expectations – for them to change, for me to "make nice" – the healthy choice became obvious.

Most of us expect our leaders to be honest, to behave in integrity, and to make decisions for the good of all. Sometimes they do not. We can hold on angrily to our expectations and drain our own joy, or we can say, "I have no control over their behavior. I will place my joy, safety, freedom, and abundance in the hands of God."

3. Be kind to yourself if you don't meet your own expectations.

I expect the best from myself, but I don't always manage it. I make mistakes, forget things, and sometimes still fall into self-defeating thought patterns. However, I no longer "perpetuate the pain" by beating myself up for not meeting my own expectations.

The angels once, very humorously made this point by saying, "Ann! If you're standing in the toilet, don't flush!" I howled with laughter.

If you don't live up to your own expectation, speak to yourself as you'd speak to a sweet innocent child... "Its OK honey, you'll do better next time." Be kind to yourself. Make a loving choice to learn and move forward.

We all have expectations. However if they're not met, better to accept life and yourself as it is, and as you are, and create a loving dance with the present moment! 

Saturday, November 05, 2016

Ok to disagree!

It is election week here in the United States. Tempers are running high. Judgments are running rampant. Anger, upset,and disgust are being discussed everywhere I turn. At the same time, the angels are celebrating the expressions of diversity and the fact that human beings are starting to bring their viewpoints to the surface, while longing to create something better. They know that sometimes, a little "stirring up" is what is needed to create growth and change. They see the election as simply another catalyst intended to stimulate the evolution of humanity – not by virtue of selecting the "right" leader, but rather by virtue of making everyone dig deep and find what is important to them.

So rather than worrying about, "what everyone else should believe," ask instead, "What do I believe? How can I structure my life around my own principles and be in integrity with my own soul? How can I listen to others without necessarily agreeing?" These are questions worth contemplating.

So many times I have been called to listen to those who have attacked me or to people with whom I vehemently disagree. Years ago one of my best friends was a guy with whom I agreed on only one thing – We are all made of one love. We disagreed on most everything else! We had fantastic discussions and came to understand different ways of thinking. Neither of us budged in our personal views or how we lived our lives, but we respected each others' souls.

Years ago a skeptic attacked a friend, and I began an angry email until the angels stopped me and had me write and ask him why he felt the need to attack without info. We had an amazing dialog and ended on a friendly note whereupon he decided I was misguided but well-intentioned and I felt the same about him.

Another time I wrote to a lady who ran a hate site for a celebrity I admired. I asked her why she was motivated to promote hate. She explained it started as a joke and took on a life of its own and now she felt trapped by her own "fans." I felt compassion for this soul that had backed herself into an uninspiring and hurtful corner of life with her dark humor. Nonetheless, we spoke to each other with respect and kindness.

Here are a few tips to deal with the differing opinions on this earth...

1. Remember, we are not all meant to agree

Rather than arguing a point with anyone, simply ask, "May I share my perspective and thoughts on this and if you don't agree I'd like to understand yours." You will have a much better discussion than if you try to beat your point into someone or vice versa.

If someone else is trying to make you agree with them, try this. "I understand this is the way you feel..." and then repeat what they said to acknowledge you have heard and understood it. "May I share my thoughts. They are a little different but they work for me."

In this fashion you create a space for understanding. If the person insists on an argument, stop sharing. No need to be right, as the angels say. You already are right for yourself!

2. Rather than getting upset about other perspectives, give yourself permission to have your own

If you give yourself permission to have your own perspectives and sacred point of view, you do not have to get worked up over others. I can now listen to people with widely differing views from my own, either share my own or remain silent, ask questions, and still go about life according to my own God given guidance.

If you don't like another's perspective, that's fine! But if you find yourself getting riled up over it, there is still something inside of you that feels a need to agree, make others agree, or "make nice." Just own what you believe and observe everyone else like a curious specimen in the human species, or better yet, if you can "turn the other cheek" and look for more resonant examples of the human race!

For example, I do not resonate with much of what goes on in our political campaigns so I do my civic duty, but I don't watch the news. The roses are blooming. The lemons are starting to turn yellow. There's a hint of fall in the air, and I'm feeling God's love ever more strongly as of late... That is my news. That is my perspective. It may or may not be yours. Accept yourself and then allowing others to "be" as they are becomes easier.

3. Remember, God is God

Dialog – even strongly sharing your views – is good! However, we fall into fear and judgment and arguing sometimes because we fear that someone can have more power over us than the Creator. Many fear that a country's leader has power over their lives, finances, etc. In reality, the angels caution us not to "worship false idols." Live by the laws of course. Know that you'll be affected by the decisions of those "in power."

Remember, however, there is only one true power and that belongs to the Divine. If you keep yourself in a loving space, and give your problems to a higher power you'll sail through anything created by mankind unscathed.

For example, self-employment insurance costs have become obscenely high thanks to changes in the law in recent years. Rather than waste my precious energy getting all riled up over something I don't like, don't agree with, and can't change right now, I give even my bills to God. Far better to live in faith and trust and act as guided, than to allow others' choices to drag you down.

So this week, see if you can "own" your own point of view, without getting into arguments. Instead of seeking to be right, seek only to understand and to be understood. We could create a much more peaceful world in this way!