Sunday, October 27, 2013

Embrace change

I have let go of so much this lifetime, sometimes willingly and sometimes with a great deal of guilt or grief. I have had people leave my life, and I have had to leave some people who were in my life. I left behind a life, a marriage, a house, and all my friends. I clean the closets regularly, and just as often, re-evaluate my beliefs to see which ones no longer serve me.

At first, letting go was difficult. I was raised with the same beliefs many of us were. "Get a good education. Find the perfect job, the perfect partner, and the perfect home. Create the perfect family and live happily ever after without deviating too much from this 'recipe for success.'" That didn't work! When I figured out who I really was I released almost everything including what I thought was my own identity! It was terrifying, beautiful, and life-changing all at the same time.

Now I no longer resist when I must let go of an attachment, a belief, a thing, or a situation. I honor my heart. And if I can't release a person or situation, I pray for help in releasing any beliefs or behaviors inside of me that make that situation unpleasant. We can always find new ways to think about and deal with who or what is in front of us.

For example, years ago I worked with some individuals that I found to be completely boring. They talked about themselves and bragged incessantly. I "made nice" and "put up with" the conversations because I had to work with them. I didn't know how to let go of this situation. Finally it occurred to me to pray. "Ask them what they enjoy doing outside of work," the angels counseled me. So I listened to the angels and posed this question to one individual who loved to brag about his brains. To my amazement, the conversation took a turn that was completely interesting to me! I couldn't let go of working with him, but I could let go of my need to "shut up and put up," and take more charge of the conversations. We ended up being friends over the fact that we both enjoyed music, and this individual who used to make me cringe when I saw him coming, suddenly became human to me.

Letting go happens almost every time I go through a huge transformation in my life, energy or spiritual growth. People leave my life. I feel the urge to purge my closets. I want to detox my body, and clean out my soul. It is no longer a scary prospect to let go, but rather a natural phase in the process of the soul's evolution.

If you can embrace change, there is blissful freedom in letting go. In truth, it is an act of faith that there is really more or better yet to come.

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