Saturday, June 30, 2012

Rejection is redirection

I've had so many rejections in this life that I can't count them. Some have been painful, like the boyfriend in my younger days storming out yelling that I was "too much work" because I asked him not to take his anger out on me. Some have been remarkably funny, like the guy who hit on me at a party until he found out what I did for a living. "I am the exact opposite of you!" he practically fumed, in frustration. "I'm a litigation attorney!" The insinuation was that he used his brain and I did not. I laughed all the way home.

The angels words are oh so true. Rejection rarely feels great but when you really get that it is not about you being a good person, not about you pleasing people, not about you trying to "fit" anyone's mold other than the one God carved out for you, then rejection becomes a gift. You don't have to argue, You don't have to fight to be seen as a good person. You don't have to slither off feeling bad about yourself. You can simply say, as the angels often direct us to say, "Ok then! You have a right to be, but you're not for me!"

I got SO many rejections years ago when I sent my book off to publishers. I had barely begun my career as an angel communicator and the angels told me I wasn't ready to be published. i didn't listen! I sent the book off and got one rejection after the next. I realize all those rejections were a gift. I love my life now, and it would have been totally different and off-balance, had God catered to my impatience. Rejection truly is a gift.

I've had to reject people too. Right after my divorce years ago a guy I worked with professed his undying love for me. I gently told him I didn't feel the same and I was sure his heart was just opening to make way for the real love of his life. He yelled and screamed at me, told me I didn't know my own heart, and pitched an unholy fit. I stuck to my guns and sure enough his heart broke open and he was redirected to met the love of his life a few months later. Two decades have passed and they're still happily married.

So when you get rejected, remember, that it is just redirection. It never feels amazing but it can give you clarity, a reality check, and an awareness of the truth of a situation. I often pray, "God open the doors that are right for me and shut all those that aren't." It saves you from a lot of heartache. Likewise if you have to reject someone, do the best you can with kindness, remembering that you are simply being honest, and that God will redirect them towards greater love as well.

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