Saturday, January 13, 2018

From Death into Life

I spent Christmas this year with a living friend and a dying friend. My living friend is an angel of a nurse who was performing hospice duties for our dying friend. We both "got the memo" from spirit that she wanted to leave on Christmas.

If you've ever been around someone ready to graduate from this earthly plane of existence, you know that you're privileged to be in two worlds at the same time. In order to truly be present to the miracle of transformation about to take place, you have to see beyond the physical and feel what is really going on with your heart.

Our friend's family had done all they could to make her comfortable. Her bed was near the fireplace, and her children sat in vigil, simply being with her as she slept. Her breath was labored and her body had shrunken to nearly half it's size. If you looked through human eyes, it was a sad sight. Through the eyes of the soul, there was so much more going on.

A week prior I had gone to visit when she was still awake. We didn't say much... verbally. I held her hand. The energy started to pour through me. We shut our eyes and together our spirits shifted into heaven. In this dimension, she was dressed in a gorgeous gold gown reminiscent of a dancer's dress and the angels were singing a glorious chorus of "Joy to the World." I don't know how long we stayed in this space but when my eyes popped open, hers did too and we smiled joyously, like two kids sharing a wonderful secret. "Did you hear them?" I asked. Her eyes lit up and she nodded. Gazing into one another's eyes, we shared one last earthly "conversation" of precious, silent, joyous love.

On Christmas she didn't need help reaching heaven. As I walked into the room I felt her spirit in every crack and crevice, filling us, feeling us, and knowing, at long last, that she was soon to be liberated from a failing body. I shut my eyes and she allowed me to feel her joy, to peek into the realms she was now experiencing and to feel her vast love for her children. There was no sorrow, no regret – nothing but pure bliss. She kept just enough energy in the body to honor a family member's wish that she not take leave right on Christmas day, and passed peacefully the next morning. Far from being gone I felt her magnificent spirit in it's glorious, expanded form. She was "home" – not somewhere else, but every where else. She had not left. She simply expanded into her true nature.

Death is nothing more than the death of an illusion that we are small, separate, insignificant and temporary. Earthly life is a treasured journey into the world of separation so God can peek out through 7 billion different forms and witness the miracle of itself in all of creation.

We forget this truth. The "dying" remember as they are rebirthed into light.

Here are some pointers this week to help you treasure this precious gift of life.

1. Delight in your senses

Slow down. Taste your food. Smell your coffee. Feel the miracle of your own hands. Put lotion slowly on your skin and savor the sensations of millions of miraculous nerve cells singing for joy. Listen to the rustle of the leaves in the breeze, or a song that elevates you beyond the ordinary. Gaze into the flame of a candle and ponder the miracle that you are this same light.

Allow yourself to savor the experience of being in a body.

2. Look at the world, yourself, and one another with wonder

Children live in a wonderful universe because they are full of wonder. We learn to look for the familiar and to judge the unfamiliar. What if we looked at the world with the eyes of a child, with wonder, curiosity, and a sense of adventure?

"That person in line is yelling. I wonder what they're so upset about. That person in the news looks so angry. I wonder what they feel so strongly about. Wow, there's a bug. I wonder what he's thinking..." Wow, feel that ache in my body. "I wonder what it is trying to tell me?"

When we remove the judgment and experience the wonder, suddenly life seems like the miracle it is.

3. Treasure your moments

Each moment of life on earth, no matter how challenging is a gift. Stop, right here and now, and give thanks for everything you find. What can you love now? Who can you love now? Don't take anything for granted. I give thanks for my bed every night, for a warm home in the winter, for my food, my clothes, my clients, my friends. If I bang an elbow I give thanks for the one that feels good. The more you do this, the quicker the challenges pass, and the more fun you have along the way.

Choose to be happy now, on the way to a happier later.

There is nothing like spending time with someone leaving this plane to remind us of the value our life on earth, even with its challenges. Enjoy the gift of your life. Don't wait till someday when things look as you wish. Start now because in every moment, gifts and treasures of love and grace await our recognition.

Saturday, January 06, 2018

Love in the line

You never know how Love will touch your life...

This week I was waiting in line at a grocery store customer service desk when an older, Indian gentleman turned around and offered me his place, "If you're in a hurry, you can go ahead of me." What a sweetheart! I thanked him but told him that for once I wasn't rushing.

A client had canceled before my lunch break, and while I "should" have been at home answering emails, the idea of running errands appealed. "I like to ask," he continued in his delightful accent. "The mothers are always so busy!" I joked, "Well, I don't have kids, but I'm mom to a lot of adults. I feed everyone!"

His face lit up! "Oh my wife! She feeds everyone! She is not my wife! She is my LIFE! We've been married 40 years." Love emanated form him, as he spoke of her with reverence. He proceeded to tell me they had large gatherings of people at their house each month just to talk. His wife fed everyone and they had only five rules: No politics, no religion, no selling, no drinking, and no smoking. They invited total strangers just to meet and eat. "You should come!" he told me. For the thousandth time this life, I wished I could clone to enjoy all the delightful souls I meet.

I ran into him again as I was leaving. "I was just telling the clerk how sweet you are," I told him. He smiled and joked, "Oh no! I'm short, old, and ugly!" I looked him in the eye and teased, "That's not who you are! That's just the costume." He smiled even more broadly. "This," he said softly, gesturing at all the people still in line with a sweep of his hand, "This is all just Halloween!"  We shared a silent moment of shared mystical truth and grinned like two kids with a beautiful secret. I saw the Divine in him as clearly as he saw it in me. He surprised me with a big hug. "I love you darling!" he told me with soul-level sincerity and the innocence of a child. "I love you too," I replied, practically dancing out of the store!

This is the "real" world – a world of tolerance, love, and authentic expression. Occasionally, in this earthly dream, we get to experience the "real world" when love and kindness, humor and grace are shared freely, with innocence and without reservation. This soul blessed my day, my year, and now all of you with his innocent, loving heart.

Can you imagine how we could change the world if we were all a bit more open to the adventure. I can. Let us dream it together.

Here are some tips this week to help you trust the journey...

1. Trust everything is perfect even if it doesn't look that way
We are always exactly where we need to be to learn what we need to learn. The more you trust that, the better life gets.

If your bank account is low, trust that you're learning about real abundance. When my clients cancel I trust the Divine Orchestration of my life. If a relationship doesn't work out, trust that you are going to receive more love. When a cold tried to set in near the end of my vacation I realized my body was telling me it was time to eat kindly once again.

The more you affirm and believe that everything is perfect, the more you'll see and experience the perfection.

2. Surrender to yourself... not your "shoulds"

If you find things don't look the way you think they should, stop. Breathe. Ask yourself, "Given life as it is, people as they are, me as I am, what next?" I "should" have answered emails when my client canceled. I felt like running errands. Shoulds rob you of God's grace.

3. Open to the adventure

Control is highly overrated. So is knowing how everything is going to turn out. As children we opened to life, live in the moment, and embrace our days as a grand adventure.

Years ago it wasn't on my agenda to take a certain route home, but it felt right. As soon as I turned off the freeway there was a woman with a stalled car. I went to get her some gas and she insisted I take some money for my time. I had just prayed for a little financial help. She had prayed for someone to assist her!

The next time something doesn't look as you wish, surrender to the adventure. Magic and miracles await!

May 2018 bring you joyous adventures, and more than you'd ask for!

Saturday, December 16, 2017

The power of focus...

Sometimes it is easy to find the light. Other times, it takes a little more creativity...

I was in the midst of Christmas bliss and joy when I awakened at 4am one morning a few weeks ago with a very unpleasant energy in my body. I felt a burning static and a stabbing pain behind my eyes. I still have no idea what or who that was, but I know at the time it didn't feel very Christmasy to me!

I heard the angels in my head. "Focus on the light." So I laid down, breathed, and thought of everyone I love. I called in my helpers, listened to their instructions about how to breathe and move to allow the energy to leave, and prayed for the upliftment of whatever it was. With a violent lurch it left me. I fell back asleep, thinking it was over Unfortunately I woke up with a lot of pain and one eye still swollen and stuck shut.

The angels, ever helpful, reminded me to "focus" on being healed if I wanted my "focus" back! 

So I went within and imagined what it would be like to see clearly by the end of the day. I thanked God for one eye working, warned my clients that I might look like a pirate with one eye shut and proceeded to get to work!

I was right in the middle of a reading, talking to a client about how surrender to the present, coupled with trust, allows God to fix everything, when the eye flew open and I could see again! We both got a huge laugh out of that synchronicity! I was even able to gaze for my second client, although tears were streaming from the injury. However, just as I'd pictured, by the end of the day I was gazing for clients just fine. It was pretty miraculous, and even though it took a few days before I could wear contact lenses again, I healed in record time!
I'm back to enjoying the season and that little adventure is fading into the past.

Life does throw you a few curves at times. It doesn’t always look as we wish. People don’t always act as we want. I am not always the person I want to be. But the angels' advice holds true - Focus on the the light in any given situation and lo and behold, you can transform almost anything into a more loving experience.

I'm back to my holiday fun and the misadventures are a thing of the past!

Here are a few tips to help you sail through life’s challenges without getting stuck in them:

1. Focus on the desired outcome
It is all too easily to feel bad, victimized, or upset when life or people don’t turn out as we wish. You do need to let yourself have your feelings. However, the trick is to let them flow, let them go, and refocus on the desired outcome.

When people are unkind, I feel my feelings, then focus on feeling the love in the entire universe again. When I have unexpected bills, I focus on them being easily paid. When someone is acting up I focus on what it would feel like to handle them with dignity and grace until I can get away from the unpleasant behavior.

If your car was headed into a storm and you kept focused on the clouds, you’d drive right into them. Instead of you focused on finding the blue skies, you’d take a different course.  By focusing on what you want, you aim towards it!

2. Don’t dignify the darkness / turn to the light

No matter how challenging a situation or unpleasant a person’s behavior, we have the choice to focus on it, or to focus on something better. The world teaches us to focus on the darkness, but we can choose to focus on the light. 

If a person is acting badly, focus on handling it with firmness and love, including self-love. Or focus on something else, someone else, or at least the fact that they must be crying for love. If a situation is hard to deal with focus on what you can do, what you do have, or how you want things to turn out.

Turn to the light and your life will transform into greater light. Focus on the darkness and you remain in the dark. 

3. Add humor

As the saying goes, sometimes you have to laugh instead of cry and I much prefer laughter. Laughter dissipates the darkness as surely as a flame melts ice. It is true I’d prefer not to hurtle demons out of me at 4am, or write Christmas cards while waiting for roto-rooter!! However, if I must, at least it makes for some good comedy!

I hope your holidays go better than expected, however, when the unexpected arises, you can transform it quickly by looking to the light. Instant transformation - Just add love :)

Saturday, December 09, 2017

Letting go of expectations

Letting go of expectations has been an ongoing lesson in my life. When I graduated college with a BS in Electrician Engineering, I expected I'd get a good job, get married, have two kids, retire, travel, and fit in a social life and crafts. As the saying goes, "God had other plans." Much better ones.

Everything was working perfectly according to plan with two exceptions: I didn't love my work and I didn't love my life. In fact it wasn't until several years after college that I realized that what was missing in my life was me. I was so focused on "how things should look" that I had never stopped to ask myself, "Do I like what I'm creating?" "An I enjoying the path I'm on?" When I did, the answers were painful series of "no's."

Within years of admitting that truth to myself, and completely letting go of my expectations about how life should look, I quit engineering, admitted my marriage was exactly what I thought it "should" be, but not even close to what I felt drawn to, and discovered that I was called to do angel readings. 

I went into my life changes kicking and screaming. I experienced loss, loneliness, and lack all at once. I grieved and sobbed at night. I felt like a horrible person for "quitting" until I finally had to admit that the creator of universes actually had a better plan for everyone involved than I had conceived. My ex-husband, who is a very good man, remarried a woman just like I thought I was and has been happy ever since. My job was delegated to six other people who then had an opportunity to move up in the company. I ended up in a life I love.

As I wrote last week, my first few Christmases on my own looked nothing like I thought they "should." Instead, guided by angels, they were filled with wonderful surprises. 

Here are a few tips to enjoy the holidays if you are feeling lack, loss, or loneliness:

1. If you are lonely seek out ways to give
Nothing cures loneliness quicker than connection. One of the kindest ways to connect with others is to serve. Volunteer to wrap presents, deliver Christmas angel gifts, hold preemies at a local hospital, read stories, build houses, serve soup, walk rescue dogs... The list of needs out there is endless. Google "holiday volunteer opportunities" with your city's name and you'll find many.

If public volunteering isn't your thing do something quietly kind for others. Slip notes under the doorways of total strangers with inspirational quotes. Give out candy canes. Smile. Hold a door. Help someone in need.

In giving we forget ourselves and find the connection we seek. 

2. If you are experiencing a loss, reconnect with the joy of the relationship

When you're grieving, you can't get around the tears, nor should you. It is best to allow the emotions to come and go in their natural cycles. However, when not engulfed by grief, you can start to develop a relationship with your loved one in heaven so you can continue to connect, albeit in a very different way than you did when they were on earth.

Step one is to create ways to remember the good times. Find every happy photo you can and make an album or a collage that brings back good feelings. Instead of focusing on what you don't have, or won't have, do your best to focus on the beautiful times you did have.

Next make a resolve to grow spiritually and learn to connect with your dear one in heaven. There are many CDs, classes, etc. out there that can help you. I have one with a few meditations to help you connect called "Life After Death" that people report worked well for them. 

If you can focus on finding the connection with your loved one again, then slowly loss turns into an expanded relationship.

3. If you're experiencing lack, dig for the abundance within

Maybe you can't afford gifts this year. In that case, its time to get creative as people have done for centuries and find ways to share your gifts, heart, talents, etc. Maybe you can give the gift of cooking a meal for someone, walking their dog, or creating something inexpensive.

I once gave friends a certificate for a nice home cooked meal every month. It didn't cost me much. It gave me joy to create, and they ate well! Another year I took cheap styrafoam balls, glued them together, rolled them in glue and Christmas sparkle snow from the dollar store and decorated them as snowmen. I included a handwritten poem and my friends loved them.

A letter expressing your love and appreciation for a friend is a beautiful gift. A collection of notes from mutual friends is even more beautiful. You can help someone decorate for Christmas. If you have a voice you can sing them a personalized carol. You can always find inexpensive gifts from your reservoir of talent and care. Rarely does a receiver expect you to give as much as you do.

Gifts from the heart are remembered long after the stuff comes and goes.

I hope this helps you have a happy holiday no matter what is going on in your life and heart. It is after all, always about the love we bring to it.