Saturday, January 20, 2018

Taxes and lemons

I love having my own business. I don't love preparing my taxes...

Every year, I pray that I wake up one day with a desire to get them ready for the accountant. It happened last weekend. I woke up with an urge to get them done. I was going strong for a few hours, when I started to get distracted.

Picking lemons sounded like more fun. I spent a delicious few hours in the tree gathering enough fruit to give away 18 boxes, juice 8 gallons and make pints of lemon curd. That lost its luster when cleaning house sounded like more fun. Shredding old documents sounded like fun. Cooking was more fun! I got a lot done... but not the taxes. At the end of the day I realized I really did want to get them done after all! After a day of citrus bliss and domestic bliss, I was ready to go back to work.

So the next morning I woke up and dove in. I realized what was driving me crazy was an outdated filing system. So I started working on that with zeal. I created new folders, new labels, and new files. (My label-maker is like a favored toy!) I set up new memorized reports in Quickbooks. Suddenly organizing the receipts was a lot more fun.

The house was clean. The lemons were picked. Food was in the fridge. The files were organized, and the taxes got done... all two days.

Years ago the angels taught me to honor my heart, in each moment, and ever since things have been accomplished with a lot more grace and ease!

Here are some pointers to help you find your heart in each moment too...

1. Ask yourself what you feel like doing now... and I mean now.

It would be easy to say, "Now I want to get my taxes done," but after two hours I did not want that. I felt like picking lemons. It would have been easy to plow through the lemon picking but after awhile I felt like cleaning house. While it may seem insane to switch tasked mid-stream, I personally work best in bursts of a few hours. Your cycles might be different. Honor that.

Because you're doing what you really want to do, you'll get more done.

2. If you have to do something you don't want to do, find a way to love it or add love to the situation.

If you have to go to work you don't love, either quit and have faith in finding a new one, or thank God for the income. If you love your kids but don't feel like doing their homework with them, focus on the time as an act of bonding.

I used to dread running weekly engineering meetings because everyone else hated them, so I started bringing doughnuts! Suddenly the meetings became a lot sweeter :)

You've heard the song, "If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with." The angels would say, "If in the moment, you can't do what you love, find a way to love what you do."

3. Always honor your heart by focusing on what you desire

If you got to a job you don't care for, no matter how much love you add, honor yourself by spending time visualizing and asking yourself, "What would it feel like to have a job I love?"Take time to put some energy towards what you dream. You'll get the universe in motion to help you create a more loving life.

While it is not humanly realistic to love every moment of your life, the more we listen to our hearts, the more loving moments we will have, and the more we'll notice what needs to change.

My heart may have guided me to a crazy way of getting my taxes / lemons / housecleaning / cooking done, but it worked for me! I sure had a lot more fun along the way than if I had just "put my nose to the grindstone," as we say.

This week try to honor your heart in the moment, even if the most loving thing you can do is to admit you want more and pray for then manifest better!

Saturday, January 13, 2018

From Death into Life

I spent Christmas this year with a living friend and a dying friend. My living friend is an angel of a nurse who was performing hospice duties for our dying friend. We both "got the memo" from spirit that she wanted to leave on Christmas.

If you've ever been around someone ready to graduate from this earthly plane of existence, you know that you're privileged to be in two worlds at the same time. In order to truly be present to the miracle of transformation about to take place, you have to see beyond the physical and feel what is really going on with your heart.

Our friend's family had done all they could to make her comfortable. Her bed was near the fireplace, and her children sat in vigil, simply being with her as she slept. Her breath was labored and her body had shrunken to nearly half it's size. If you looked through human eyes, it was a sad sight. Through the eyes of the soul, there was so much more going on.

A week prior I had gone to visit when she was still awake. We didn't say much... verbally. I held her hand. The energy started to pour through me. We shut our eyes and together our spirits shifted into heaven. In this dimension, she was dressed in a gorgeous gold gown reminiscent of a dancer's dress and the angels were singing a glorious chorus of "Joy to the World." I don't know how long we stayed in this space but when my eyes popped open, hers did too and we smiled joyously, like two kids sharing a wonderful secret. "Did you hear them?" I asked. Her eyes lit up and she nodded. Gazing into one another's eyes, we shared one last earthly "conversation" of precious, silent, joyous love.

On Christmas she didn't need help reaching heaven. As I walked into the room I felt her spirit in every crack and crevice, filling us, feeling us, and knowing, at long last, that she was soon to be liberated from a failing body. I shut my eyes and she allowed me to feel her joy, to peek into the realms she was now experiencing and to feel her vast love for her children. There was no sorrow, no regret – nothing but pure bliss. She kept just enough energy in the body to honor a family member's wish that she not take leave right on Christmas day, and passed peacefully the next morning. Far from being gone I felt her magnificent spirit in it's glorious, expanded form. She was "home" – not somewhere else, but every where else. She had not left. She simply expanded into her true nature.

Death is nothing more than the death of an illusion that we are small, separate, insignificant and temporary. Earthly life is a treasured journey into the world of separation so God can peek out through 7 billion different forms and witness the miracle of itself in all of creation.

We forget this truth. The "dying" remember as they are rebirthed into light.

Here are some pointers this week to help you treasure this precious gift of life.

1. Delight in your senses

Slow down. Taste your food. Smell your coffee. Feel the miracle of your own hands. Put lotion slowly on your skin and savor the sensations of millions of miraculous nerve cells singing for joy. Listen to the rustle of the leaves in the breeze, or a song that elevates you beyond the ordinary. Gaze into the flame of a candle and ponder the miracle that you are this same light.

Allow yourself to savor the experience of being in a body.

2. Look at the world, yourself, and one another with wonder

Children live in a wonderful universe because they are full of wonder. We learn to look for the familiar and to judge the unfamiliar. What if we looked at the world with the eyes of a child, with wonder, curiosity, and a sense of adventure?

"That person in line is yelling. I wonder what they're so upset about. That person in the news looks so angry. I wonder what they feel so strongly about. Wow, there's a bug. I wonder what he's thinking..." Wow, feel that ache in my body. "I wonder what it is trying to tell me?"

When we remove the judgment and experience the wonder, suddenly life seems like the miracle it is.

3. Treasure your moments

Each moment of life on earth, no matter how challenging is a gift. Stop, right here and now, and give thanks for everything you find. What can you love now? Who can you love now? Don't take anything for granted. I give thanks for my bed every night, for a warm home in the winter, for my food, my clothes, my clients, my friends. If I bang an elbow I give thanks for the one that feels good. The more you do this, the quicker the challenges pass, and the more fun you have along the way.

Choose to be happy now, on the way to a happier later.

There is nothing like spending time with someone leaving this plane to remind us of the value our life on earth, even with its challenges. Enjoy the gift of your life. Don't wait till someday when things look as you wish. Start now because in every moment, gifts and treasures of love and grace await our recognition.

Saturday, January 06, 2018

Love in the line

You never know how Love will touch your life...

This week I was waiting in line at a grocery store customer service desk when an older, Indian gentleman turned around and offered me his place, "If you're in a hurry, you can go ahead of me." What a sweetheart! I thanked him but told him that for once I wasn't rushing.

A client had canceled before my lunch break, and while I "should" have been at home answering emails, the idea of running errands appealed. "I like to ask," he continued in his delightful accent. "The mothers are always so busy!" I joked, "Well, I don't have kids, but I'm mom to a lot of adults. I feed everyone!"

His face lit up! "Oh my wife! She feeds everyone! She is not my wife! She is my LIFE! We've been married 40 years." Love emanated form him, as he spoke of her with reverence. He proceeded to tell me they had large gatherings of people at their house each month just to talk. His wife fed everyone and they had only five rules: No politics, no religion, no selling, no drinking, and no smoking. They invited total strangers just to meet and eat. "You should come!" he told me. For the thousandth time this life, I wished I could clone to enjoy all the delightful souls I meet.

I ran into him again as I was leaving. "I was just telling the clerk how sweet you are," I told him. He smiled and joked, "Oh no! I'm short, old, and ugly!" I looked him in the eye and teased, "That's not who you are! That's just the costume." He smiled even more broadly. "This," he said softly, gesturing at all the people still in line with a sweep of his hand, "This is all just Halloween!"  We shared a silent moment of shared mystical truth and grinned like two kids with a beautiful secret. I saw the Divine in him as clearly as he saw it in me. He surprised me with a big hug. "I love you darling!" he told me with soul-level sincerity and the innocence of a child. "I love you too," I replied, practically dancing out of the store!

This is the "real" world – a world of tolerance, love, and authentic expression. Occasionally, in this earthly dream, we get to experience the "real world" when love and kindness, humor and grace are shared freely, with innocence and without reservation. This soul blessed my day, my year, and now all of you with his innocent, loving heart.

Can you imagine how we could change the world if we were all a bit more open to the adventure. I can. Let us dream it together.

Here are some tips this week to help you trust the journey...

1. Trust everything is perfect even if it doesn't look that way
We are always exactly where we need to be to learn what we need to learn. The more you trust that, the better life gets.

If your bank account is low, trust that you're learning about real abundance. When my clients cancel I trust the Divine Orchestration of my life. If a relationship doesn't work out, trust that you are going to receive more love. When a cold tried to set in near the end of my vacation I realized my body was telling me it was time to eat kindly once again.

The more you affirm and believe that everything is perfect, the more you'll see and experience the perfection.

2. Surrender to yourself... not your "shoulds"

If you find things don't look the way you think they should, stop. Breathe. Ask yourself, "Given life as it is, people as they are, me as I am, what next?" I "should" have answered emails when my client canceled. I felt like running errands. Shoulds rob you of God's grace.

3. Open to the adventure

Control is highly overrated. So is knowing how everything is going to turn out. As children we opened to life, live in the moment, and embrace our days as a grand adventure.

Years ago it wasn't on my agenda to take a certain route home, but it felt right. As soon as I turned off the freeway there was a woman with a stalled car. I went to get her some gas and she insisted I take some money for my time. I had just prayed for a little financial help. She had prayed for someone to assist her!

The next time something doesn't look as you wish, surrender to the adventure. Magic and miracles await!

May 2018 bring you joyous adventures, and more than you'd ask for!

Saturday, December 16, 2017

The power of focus...

Sometimes it is easy to find the light. Other times, it takes a little more creativity...

I was in the midst of Christmas bliss and joy when I awakened at 4am one morning a few weeks ago with a very unpleasant energy in my body. I felt a burning static and a stabbing pain behind my eyes. I still have no idea what or who that was, but I know at the time it didn't feel very Christmasy to me!

I heard the angels in my head. "Focus on the light." So I laid down, breathed, and thought of everyone I love. I called in my helpers, listened to their instructions about how to breathe and move to allow the energy to leave, and prayed for the upliftment of whatever it was. With a violent lurch it left me. I fell back asleep, thinking it was over Unfortunately I woke up with a lot of pain and one eye still swollen and stuck shut.

The angels, ever helpful, reminded me to "focus" on being healed if I wanted my "focus" back! 

So I went within and imagined what it would be like to see clearly by the end of the day. I thanked God for one eye working, warned my clients that I might look like a pirate with one eye shut and proceeded to get to work!

I was right in the middle of a reading, talking to a client about how surrender to the present, coupled with trust, allows God to fix everything, when the eye flew open and I could see again! We both got a huge laugh out of that synchronicity! I was even able to gaze for my second client, although tears were streaming from the injury. However, just as I'd pictured, by the end of the day I was gazing for clients just fine. It was pretty miraculous, and even though it took a few days before I could wear contact lenses again, I healed in record time!
I'm back to enjoying the season and that little adventure is fading into the past.

Life does throw you a few curves at times. It doesn’t always look as we wish. People don’t always act as we want. I am not always the person I want to be. But the angels' advice holds true - Focus on the the light in any given situation and lo and behold, you can transform almost anything into a more loving experience.

I'm back to my holiday fun and the misadventures are a thing of the past!

Here are a few tips to help you sail through life’s challenges without getting stuck in them:

1. Focus on the desired outcome
It is all too easily to feel bad, victimized, or upset when life or people don’t turn out as we wish. You do need to let yourself have your feelings. However, the trick is to let them flow, let them go, and refocus on the desired outcome.

When people are unkind, I feel my feelings, then focus on feeling the love in the entire universe again. When I have unexpected bills, I focus on them being easily paid. When someone is acting up I focus on what it would feel like to handle them with dignity and grace until I can get away from the unpleasant behavior.

If your car was headed into a storm and you kept focused on the clouds, you’d drive right into them. Instead of you focused on finding the blue skies, you’d take a different course.  By focusing on what you want, you aim towards it!

2. Don’t dignify the darkness / turn to the light

No matter how challenging a situation or unpleasant a person’s behavior, we have the choice to focus on it, or to focus on something better. The world teaches us to focus on the darkness, but we can choose to focus on the light. 

If a person is acting badly, focus on handling it with firmness and love, including self-love. Or focus on something else, someone else, or at least the fact that they must be crying for love. If a situation is hard to deal with focus on what you can do, what you do have, or how you want things to turn out.

Turn to the light and your life will transform into greater light. Focus on the darkness and you remain in the dark. 

3. Add humor

As the saying goes, sometimes you have to laugh instead of cry and I much prefer laughter. Laughter dissipates the darkness as surely as a flame melts ice. It is true I’d prefer not to hurtle demons out of me at 4am, or write Christmas cards while waiting for roto-rooter!! However, if I must, at least it makes for some good comedy!

I hope your holidays go better than expected, however, when the unexpected arises, you can transform it quickly by looking to the light. Instant transformation - Just add love :)