Saturday, November 11, 2017

Coming together

I grew up in a family of strongly opinionated and strong-willed people – me included. There were often conflicting points of view... and that used to bother and frustrate us all. I'm certainly not the person anyone (including me) thought I would turn out to be.

In years gone by, I spent many upsetting conversations trying to convince my family to believe as I did, to enjoy the healing modalities I did, and to accept my points of view. I spent many more frustrating trying to be accepted for my beliefs without being able to prove them. My dad is a physicist. My mom has done accounting and office work. My brother is of a religious persuasion and was concerned about my soul. In my younger days, we had some mighty arguments. In retrospect I know we all just wanted to be accepted and understood.

Over the years the angels have helped me accept myself so thoroughly that I was able to give up my need for validation, approval, and acceptance. As a result have no need to push my beliefs on anyone. I've also realized I have no need to please anyone by trying to be anything other than who I am. We all get along beautifully now. We all take a much greater interest in one another.

My dad, a brilliant physicist and college professor, now listens to my stories of life working with those on the other side. When I recently went home for a visit, he gave me a tour the research lab where he and his students are studying cold fusion. My mom and I now talk about recipes, my nieces, jokes, and angels. My brother, who once feared for my soul, is a wonderful dad who shares his heart and home with us. I feel as if we've graduated. In fact, I just returned a few weeks ago from one of the most loving and beautiful visits in my adult life – truly a victory celebration of unity in the diversity!

Here are a few pointers to find / feel more unity this week:

1. Seek to understand
Rather than judging another perspective, seek to understand. Ask, "Why do you feel that way? I'm interested." Don't jump to conclusions or make assumptions. When we grant others understanding, they frequently return the favor. If they don't at least you'll understand them more deeply.

2. Give acknowledgment when you don't have agreement

If you don't agree with someone at least acknowledge their perspective. "Oh, I see what you mean." The angels beg us not to try to change others but rather allow ourselves and them the courtesy of simply being acknowledged.

I talk to people everywhere. Sometimes someone will go on and on about a belief that I simply don't share. I just say, "Oh I see what you mean," and that is enough.

3. Enjoy the differences

Enjoy cultural diversity. Savor the flavor in life! If you find someone's perspective absurd to you, laugh about it. What is absurd to you serves a purpose for someone else.

I can't wait for the day when we all return to that innocent state of being where we are naturally and simply curious about the differences. Variety is truly the spice of life!

Saturday, November 04, 2017

Self love is innocent

Like many of us, I grew up witnessing a culture of self-critical women. My mom learned it from her mom, and I learned it from her. I grew up feeling like I had to be perfect, and it wasn't until I started working with angels that I realized we all, already are – not according to some superficial human standard, but rather in the eyes of God and the angels.

I used to be a "sorry machine" – apologizing for everything in advance to avoid criticism. 
I used to put myself down very easily. It took years to break those habit patterns. The angels once made me go to the mirror every time I criticized myself, and apologize sincerely!

Finally being around children, animals, and other innocents taught me how to easily return to a natural state of being.

I used to go sit by an outdoor fountain in the summer at one of the local outdoor malls just to work and listen to the screams of delight from the little ones playing gleefully in the water. Each one, clearly, was in tune with their own beautiful nature.

Some gingerly patted the water. Others shrieked and splashed all over. Some sat on the fountains while others ran through so quickly they barely got wet. Some organized little groups while others preferred to play alone. No matter what their personality, these kids were quite comfortable being themselves. They sorted themselves out easily into groups of like mind. Very little adult intervention was required. In a natural state of joy, these souls knew exactly where and with whom they belonged.

I never once saw any of these children criticizing themselves. They showed off. The stuck out their big bellies and bragged. The ones wearing casts sat at the edges and proudly told everyone who walked by what they'd broken. If someone was unhappy they pouted or shouted, and then it was done – no shame, no blame. If they hurt another kid's feelings, you'd see them stop, think about it, and then go back to make a peace offering.

Kids come to earth already perfect, knowing how to love themselves. I adore watching their very pure interactions. I believe this is the reason that we must "be as a child to enter the kingdom.

When I forget how to love myself, I simply remember the innocent child within and the perfection that lies beneath the surface of all human interactions, mine included!

Here are a few ways you can be kind and loving to yourself this week:

1. Every time you criticize yourself counteract it by giving yourself three genuine compliments.
Every habit takes repetition to break. If you are in the habit of criticizing yourself, catch yourself in the act and give yourself 3 compliments. I still do this and inevitably I feel better, change my vibration and often end up laughing at my own humanity.

2. When you are hard on yourself stop. Treat yourself the way you'd treat a child.

When I get upset, rather than criticizing myself, I talk to the innocent child within, "That's OK honey! They were hurtful! You have a right to be mad." Within seconds the anger dissipates. When I become fearful I tell myself, "It's OK, we have angels. Everything is going to be alright." When I become sad, I grab a blanket and surround myself with love and warmth. Treat yourself with the same kindness, acceptance, and love you'd give a child. That innocent child still lives within you.

3. Give yourself treats

Every now and then, or better yet often, stop and do something kind for yourself. Treat yourself to a massage, time to read a chapter in a book, or time to daydream. Go get, or cook, a nice dinner and eat by candlelight. Play beautiful music on your commute. Buy yourself flowers. Do anything healthy and uplifting that you'd normally reserve for "special occasions" or for others. Gift yourself with your own love.

Let's all work to end the cycles of self-abuse and instead embrace a kinder, happier, more self-loving reality.

Saturday, October 28, 2017

Conquering fear

I don't have anything against spiders. So when I was staying at a friend's house and a nice furry two-inch, eight-legged girl started crawling on the kitchen counter it surprised me that I got a bit startled. I calmed down, grabbed a container and began to talk to her. "Hi Honey. You're awfully big and you're scaring me. Do me a favor. Jump into this container and I'll get you out safely. We'll both be better off!"

I held the container about four inches beneath the counter top and lo and behold, she lowered herself in. Gently I carried her outside, opened the lid, and she hopped out looking directly at me with those two big eyes sticking out of furry posts on top of her head. I wonder what on earth she was thinking! I know what my friends were thinking. They call me "the bug whisperer!"

Happily spiders are not one of my phobias from another life. I used to have a fear of icy water. The angels told me it was because I drowned as a five year old on the Titanic! I had a fear of tight things around my neck. Apparently I was choked . I used to have a fear of storms. That came from being chained to a wall in one life and left in the elements. It amuses me that I now sit in total comfort writing to thousands of loving souls all over the world. I like to joke thatI've been roasted, toasted, sliced, and diced, and now my life is very nice! We are indeed eternal and indestructible souls!

This understanding is what gives me peace when I see such death and destruction on the news. I have huge compassion for what we go through, and yet I know that no matter how hard a life is, it is just a role in the giant masquerade ball we call life. Eventually we remember who we are as we transition back into the light.

We come to earth time and again until we remember that there is always love beneath the mask. And while we know this intellectually, until we embrace it 100% we all fall prey to fears from tie to time.

So, in honor of Halloween here are a few pointers to help you find your way out of fear, when "real" life appears scary.

1. Replace Fear with a Fantastic Fantasy

Most of you have heard that FEAR = "False Events Appear Real." Fear is rarely about what is happening right here, right now. It is instead a scary projection on the future. You might get rejected. You might not be able to pay the bills. You might get sick. If something is in front of you here and now, you just handle it even if you're having a biological fight/flight reaction.

So when you feel fear, remind yourself. I'm fine now. Things are manageable now. No one is hurting me this second. Now is doable. Next, think of the best possible outcome. Fear is basically a negative fantasy. Replace it with a better one.

2. Shake, Quake, or Bake

Seriously, sometimes viscerally dancing or shaking/quaking like a dog shaking water off its back after a bath is a great way to clear fear! So is exercise. If that fails "Bake" - sit in a warm place, wrap up in a warm blanket, or sip a warm drink. Physically warming your body helps release tension and relax fear.

3. Imagine how you would deal with what you fear

Fear makes you feel like you couldn't handle a situation. In reality you've handled every fearful thing you've had to face so far. Come up with at least 3 to 5 ways you'd handle your scary situation.

4. Try a regression or other hypnosis

If you think you have unreasonable past life fears as I did a past life regression hypnosis works wonders. Even if your fears are debilitating ones from this life, hypnosis and various other reprogramming techniques like EFT, EMDR, etc. are extremely helpful in changing habitual brain patterns.

Have a Happy Halloween if you celebrate it and don't forget that even the candy is a great metaphor... Anything scary can be counteracted with something sweet!

Saturday, October 21, 2017

You don't have to know how

It was an almighty revelation to me when the angels finally impressed up on me that the universe follows our direction whether we set it consciously or not. I grew up steeped in the belief that God had my life planned out and I was rewarded for following “His” plan, or punished if not. According to the angels, and the experience of many embracing a more accurate paradigm, it doesn’t quite work that way.

In reality we choose a destination or goal (either consciously or unconsciously) and then the Divine tries to guide us there in the most loving and joyful way possible – a way that is typically so elegant and beautiful that it is often beyond our wildest dreams.

Take one of my clients for example. He was doing very well at one point in his life and then he went through a tough phase where he wasn’t sure how to pay the bills. He ended up driving Uber and hoping for good tips. That’s when he started manifesting seriously. His goals were pretty “unrealistic” in human terms, given his current situation. He wanted to live on a large piece of property that could support horses and eventually start a charity.

He stayed in touch with his heart, even though appearances would have him doubt his dreams were possible. He worked diligently to get his mind in the right place, until he knew, without knowing how, that someday this life would come about. He spoke confidently about his future. I could tell his energy was lined up perfectly with his desires.

One month after months of working on his inner world, the little miracles started to show up in his life. A few weeks later, the big one arrived. Out of the blue, an old family friend he’d not heard from in years called. This angel had just “thought of him” when a local store in her town was about to shut down. Being an astute business woman she talked to the owner and conditionally orchestrated a deal where my client could take over the business for free, with no money up front, and pay it back in several years. Added to that she offered him a place to live on her large property! "By the way," she told him, “I know how to write grants if you ever want to set up a non-profit.” Way to go God! He is off to his new adventure, manifesting even more.

This is how life really works. We weren’t taught that. We were taught to believe only in what we know. How sad it would be if we did. I don’t know how to make rainbows, nor paint the trees with autumn colors. I don’t know how to pick or roast coffee, nor do I understand how my car works. I don’t even understand the half of it when it comes to how my own body works. Why, oh why then, do we believe we have to know how our dreams will come true?

This week, allow yourself to dream… then, here are a few pointers from my Manifesting in the Flow of Grace playshop to help you get your energy lined up with your desires.

1. Get juicy with your imagination

What would life look and feel like to have your dreams? What would have changed? Who would be in your life? Who would move along. Fill in as much as you can imagine. Details don't matter so just pick ones that make you feel good. The feeling is most important. How would you feel? Really get into it.

To the degree you can feel your dreams, you send out a strong signal. 

2. Look for examples of people who have what you want

If someone else can create the life you want, you can too. It has little to do with money, circumstance, etc. It has everything to do with their beliefs about what they can have. That is why they have attracted the money, help, and/or circumstances. The universe and the Divine have infinite resources. God is your benefactor and mentor... and may show up in many forms!

Seek out examples and learn from their mindset. Don't worry too much about how they got what they have. Focus more on their mindset .

3. Find ways to feel the feeling you ultimately want... now

If you want something in the future, it is always because you want the feeling it will give you. How can you feel that now? Get creative. Years ago a friend wanted a new car. She decided it would make her feel classier since her old one was pretty tired looking. In the short term, she cleaned up and detailed the old car with a paintbrush, knowing that when she was done with it it was likely turning to parts. She felt better already, classier, and more willing to go places. Sure enough she manifested a new one in a lot less time than she thought was possible.

Find the feeling and you're tuning your inner dial into the energy of what you want.

Miracles happen on a dime. We don't have to know how. We just have to keep our energy in the right space. Find that feeling this week and enjoy the journey!

Love you all!

PS - I can't keep this a secret! You are the first to hear ! 

I’ll be teaching Manifesting in the Flow of Grace on October 6, 2018 in Sedona, Arizona, and for the first time, for those of you who can’t attend live, we are going to live stream the class!!!! I’m so happy. I didn’t plan that either :) Save the date!

We'll also be doing Dancing with Angels live again on May 19, 2018 but that one won't be streamed.